Our Memories

Memories about Ilmo that family and friends have shared with us. Go here to add your memories.

Arson is ok – if it is for love!

Ilmo had a grand proposal planned which was to climax with a big flaming heart-shaped hoop of fire. But now he had to figure out how to pull it off with a minimal pyrotechnics budget. That is where the dinosaur toy that shoots sparks came in. This toy was strategically selected because of its remote […]Read More

The Fords: Oxford, Stanford, & Beyond

The Fords: Oxford, Stanford, & Beyond

I first met Ilmo at Oxford and have many happy memories together there but the one I’m focusing on & sharing now is from a brief but memorable trip to interview at Stanford for my PhD. We all reunited for lunch beforehand nearby to see Ilmo’s then new digs at Google X, as pictured. It […]Read More

Mobile prayer

We were seated in Christ Church Hall one evening waiting for dinner when Ilmo looked at the small group next to him and said, “We’re doing the mobile prayer!” When I looked up puzzled he explained, not in words but action, that we were at the table with our heads bowed in silence because of […]Read More

Conversations, Ideas, and New Experiences

I miss Ilmo, and cherish every memory and every conversation we had together. His unique combination of brilliant scientific thinking, empathy, and pragmatism left me thinking about him and his ideas for weeks on end… Whether it was discussing virtual reality, large language models (and having LLMs write entire books!), or self-driving cars, he always […]Read More

Sincerity

One of the many things I learned from Ilmo about how to navigate the world was his lighthearted, genuine approach. He had an ability to take lightly the things that felt pressing in the moment but didn’t matter in the long run, and yet to give deep and genuine sincerity to the things that did […]Read More

One of my favourite people I ever met through work

Ilmo and I worked together on the UX team at Google. He was one of the nicest, smartest, and most helpful people I’ve ever had the pleasure to work with. He was always willing to help anyone who needed it, and was extremely generous with his time and experience. He was an incredibly smart person, […]Read More

Ilmo </3

I was lucky enough to get to know Ilmo and Hayzell in 2008/9 during our time together at Oxford. My memories of Ilmo are of a wonderfully friendly, kind, genuine, funny, and intelligent man. His personal warmth, wit and kindness made becoming friends very easy! Ilmo and Hayzell were very much in love – a […]Read More

Elevation

Elevation

I knew Ilmo from his time at Oxford working on his PhD, which was part of a broader project (‘EROS’) that I was employed on in Sheffield, UK. While we didn’t work closely together in the project, he was someone I looked forward to seeing at our meetings around the country, because of his enthusiasm […]Read More

Sony Computer Entertainment

I met Ilmo while working as a contract German translator at Sony.I am so very sorry to hear of his passing and send hugs to his wife and son. Ilmo was a super guy.

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Warmth & Competence

Warmth & Competence

We cannot believe that Ilmo has passed. We are at a loss for words. It has been quite some time since we last saw each other, back when we visited Ilmo and Hayzell in Oxford. We treasure fond memories of that get together as well as other ones before that around Berkeley. It is heartwarming […]Read More

Missing Ilmo 🙁

I still can’t believe Ilmo is gone. It just doesn’t seem real. Every day, I think about him and feel so incredibly sad. I met Ilmo not long after I joined the Core ML team. We hit it off right away and became close collaborators and good friends. We worked on so many projects together […]Read More

Thanks, Ilmo.

Thanks, Ilmo.

Ilmo always followed through. When he said “we should do this,” it was never an empty intent. He meant “I’ve decided that I want to do this, so we’re going to do this.” He made things happen and never hesitated to reach out to invite you to join him in his ideas or his fun […]Read More

My Sunshine, my Dear Son Ilmo

My Sunshine, my Dear Son Ilmo

I am extremely grateful that I got the world’s most beautiful Ilmo. I became a single parent when Ilmo was a 4-month-old baby when his biological father chose a lifestyle that the little boy couldn’t fit into. Ilmo was in everything I did. I felt that my most important task is to be a mother […]Read More

Swedish Midsummer Party in oxford 2010

Swedish Midsummer Party in oxford 2010

It was at Anna’s place in Oxford to celebrate Swedish Midsummer. I think that was the day we met for the first time… Unfortunately, I couldn’t find my photo with you and Ilmo. That happens often as I am usually the photographer. Although we didn’t meet often, I remember all with you. Kimchi making, visiting […]Read More

Oxford mentor

Ilmo supported me along with my lead researcher, while I studied at Oxford in 2008-2011. My last emails with them were after I left university and was hoping to publish my research. It was on human attraction and both G and Ilmo took on the idea I had and helped me do a really good […]Read More

An Incredible Mentor

An Incredible Mentor

Ilmo was an extraordinary mentor who profoundly shaped my intellectual journey and professional growth. While I was studying abroad at Oxford, he served as both tutor and instructor, stretching my intellectual curiosity and sparking my deep interest in psychology, human behavior, and the philosophy of science. Our sessions—sometimes held in his apartment (I believe Hayzell […]Read More

MacGyver and Mother Theresa

MacGyver and Mother Theresa

I’m going to guess it was 2004 or 2005 when Ilmo walked into my cramped, 3-person Tolman Hall office with no windows and told me he wanted to collaborate on his honors thesis. He struck me as totally unique, really genuine, smart as heck, and someone who would be a ton of fun to work […]Read More

Always cheerful

I met Ilmo in 1997 when I started working at Bates Interactive. He was cheerful, approachable, and always had time for others—quite different from a typical Finn like me. There was almost never a frown on his face. What stood out the most about Ilmo was his boundless enthusiasm for learning new things and sharing […]Read More

Ilmo was really fucking cool!

Ilmo was really fucking cool!

Ilmo was the BEST MAN!

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Thoughtful kindness

Thoughtful kindness

Ilmo was such a good person. I’m so sad and can’t believe he’s gone. I, like many, thought I would see him during another visit. I had been a few times to see him, Hayzell, and Cal. Besides being incredibly clever and dedicated in his own work, Ilmo was always thinking of others (ie., a […]Read More

Why not make it epic?

Why not make it epic?

I met Ilmo while in my early days of my career at Sony PlayStation, and we quite quickly became allies in our quest to standardise some of the vast amounts of information flowing through our office. It was so long ago, that he had yet to adopt the last name which we all now know […]Read More

Emotion regulation @Oxford

I was so shocked when I learned of Ilmo’s passing. We hadn’t seen each other in person for quite some time, but somehow, I was convinced our paths would cross again, whether here in the UK or overseas. I cannot believe its not to be. I got to know Ilmo first of all through the […]Read More

Drifting to happiness

I am with sadness hearing this news but I cannot _be_ sad. As soon as my mind drifts to Ilmo it recenters on happiness. I simply have nothing but happy memories with him. He hosted me in SF a couple times and even advocated for me to work at Facebook (which as history attests, was […]Read More

Adventures…

Adventures…

Ilmo & Lauri at the Grand Canyon and Death Valley in 2003ish

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A Cool Guy with a Kind Heart

A Cool Guy with a Kind Heart

I met Ilmo 15 years ago when we were both grad students at Oxford. Ilmo immediately struck me as wicked smart, very funny, and having a huge heart. When I mentioned that my wife and daughter were with me in England since I was an older student, he immediately introduced my wife Alison to Hayzell […]Read More

Amazing Individual. Ready to help!!

Amazing Individual. Ready to help!!

I was fortunate to have Ilmo and Hayzell as my tenants for a couple of years. I often bragged to friends about how Ilmo would effortlessly handle any issue that came up. I still remember how he drew out the entire furnace design on paper and explained the problem to me when multiple technicians couldn’t […]Read More

A Friend

A Friend

I met Ilmo in the early nineteen eighties when my family moved to a small town in Finland, where, obviously, I did not know anyone. I was seven years old, I was small, alone and shy, a lot of similarities with Ilmo (minus the shyness of course). I remember my first day in the new […]Read More

Kindness when I joined Waymo

I just learned of Ilmo’s passing and wanted to reach out with my sympathy and thoughts. Ilmo was one of the first people I met when I joined Waymo 4 years ago. He didn’t hesitate to take time to teach me the ropes, answer my questions, bring me into projects, brainstorm ideas, and help me […]Read More

Learning from Ilmo

I met Ilmo on January 31st in the year 2000, on my first day at SSH Communications Security. It was the beginning of the new millennium, as well as my career in cybersecurity. I remember Ilmo wearing a three-piece suit and an infectuous smile. It was one of the most memorable encounters in a day […]Read More

Ilmo – Friend to all Animals

Ilmo – Friend to all Animals

Ilmo and George – Hanging Out!

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Ilmo & Joe

Ilmo & Joe

Ilmo will forever be – My BEST Man!

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Ilmo & Hayzell – Mexico

Ilmo & Hayzell – Mexico

A truly memorable trip to Mexico’s town of Dolores Hidalgo – Birthplace of Mexican Independence!

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Ilmo- miss you!

Ilmo- miss you!

I first met Ilmo in 2008 when we were both introduced as the newest graduate students in the Experimental Psychology department at Oxford. From that moment, Ilmo and Hayzell became more than friends; they became people I could rely on for anything, whether about life, academics, or simply sharing a laugh. Their style was unforgettable; […]Read More

Ilmo- miss you

Ilmo- miss you

I first met Ilmo in 2008 when we were both introduced as the newest graduate students in the Experimental Psychology department at Oxford. From that moment, Ilmo and Hayzell became close friends— people I could rely on for anything, whether about life, academics, or simply sharing a laugh. Their style was unforgettable; they would arrive […]Read More

A mentor and role model

I’ve worked with Ilmo at Facebook. Ilmo was expert in the research team, while I joined as a fresh new grad working on a company level tracking survey. He was always friendly when I asked him for insights and suggestions. His work was rigorous in research and unconventional in communication style. It opened my eyes. […]Read More

With love

I´m sorry to hear of Ilmos death and my thoughts is with Hayzell and Cal. I remeber him as very wise and thinking person. With love and fond memories. Aunt Ritva/Sweden

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The best scrambled eggs, according to YouTube

The best scrambled eggs, according to YouTube

What was it like to spend time with Ilmo? Well, this is impossible to describe, but perhaps my lessons on scrambled eggs are something. Visiting their home in Cambridge, Ilmo told me he learned the best way to scramble eggs from watching videos online. Ilmo not only enjoyed learning about such things — often from […]Read More

An amazing friend and colleague

An amazing friend and colleague

It’s hard to express the essence of Ilmo in just a few words, as there are so many cherished memories of him and Hayzell. Whether through a simple text or an in-person meeting, Ilmo and Hayzell were everyone’s favorite couple. Losing Ilmo, such a kind and generous spirit, feels unimaginable. As I sift through old […]Read More

Fist time meeting Ilmo in Oxford

Fist time meeting Ilmo in Oxford

I first met Ilmo and Hayzell at Oxford while getting to know Ariel. Meeting Ilmo was a highlight; Ilmo has given me the best Oxford University punting lesson; his kindness and humor made me feel so welcome. Less than a year later, I married Ariel, and we’ve kept in touch with Ilmo and Hayzell ever […]Read More

Grateful for the time we had, Ilmo

Grateful for the time we had, Ilmo

There’s so much I could say about Ilmo as a colleague, about the depth of his integrity, his sincere care for others, his collaborative and non-political/factional way of working with others, but I want to instead focus on who he was to me – as a friend and role model – because this is what’s […]Read More

From manger to mentor & friend

From manger to mentor & friend

In what I consider to be one of the luckiest movements in the universe, Ilmo was assigned to be my intern manager at Facebook in the summer of 2018. He was brilliant, kind, silly, honest, substantive, and always full of surprises (when he realized I was homesick for Chicago, he insisted we needed qualitative research […]Read More

Ilmo was a great collaborator

I only worked with Ilmo briefly at Google, planning for a user experience study. He was the kind of positive person who would think creatively to try to find a way to get things done successfully. It sounds obvious, everyone you work with should be like that, but Ilmo was one of the few who […]Read More

Ilmo in Finland 2013

Ilmo in Finland 2013

Autumn was beautiful and warm for Ilmo’s family when they visited Finland

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Baby DJ: “HIT IT!”

Baby DJ: “HIT IT!”

I have so many favorite memories of Ilmo – from a team Tropical Thursday hang out over video call where an apricot fell on him from his tree (and of course he made some Newton joke about gravity proven via apricot instead of apple haha), to gvc video calls where he got to meet our […]Read More

Ilmo and food

Ilmo and food

I have lots of fond memories of my time in Oxford, many of which Ilmo was a part of, and many of which involve food. Be it a fancy dinner at a college or a “so crazy it good work” evening of sharing weird recipes,a Swiss cheese fondue, picking raspberries or Ilmo showing us the […]Read More

Gratitude

Gratitude

We will miss our friend Ilmo. He was always a bright light and we had so many fun adventures with him – Mexico for Joe and Dawn’s wedding, visits in England, Facebook tour… He taught me to search for gratitude and I have applied this to running my company as the team shares what we […]Read More

Monday 1:1s with Ilmo: Lessons in Life, Family, and Belonging

To Ilmo’s Family, I am deeply saddened by Ilmo’s passing and want to share with you the impact he had on me in the short time I was fortunate enough to know him. Ilmo was one of the first people I met when interviewing for my role on the Core ML team. From that very […]Read More

“Like ‘Tickle me Elmo’, but with an I”

Where to start… For twenty-two years I ran the Haas Scholars Program, an undergraduate research program at UC Berkeley. Ilmo was in the 2005-2006 cohort, which turned out to be one of the most fun and cohesive cohorts ever. I remember our weekly colloquium meetings being filled with laughter. Of course, Ilmo was essential in […]Read More

Adventures with Ilmo

Ilmo took me places I’d never been before. Sometimes it was just a thought experiment to sit and think about theoretical future possibilities, but somedays we actually packed up the car and went out exploring to see new things! Our most memorable trip was when his brother came to visit from Finland and Ilmo wanted […]Read More

Thank you

“If you don’t like a parenting book, pick up another one and you’ll find one you like.” Ilmo said to me as I shared my latest parenting struggle. Ilmo had this incredible ability to help people see the lighter (and endlessly wiser) path to address whatever problems they have in work and life. He cared […]Read More

here is a childhood picture at the same well

here is a childhood picture at the same well

In 1977, a photo of 2-year-old Ilmo was taken at the same well, where we took a similar photo later, when he was already an adult. Equally dear in both pictures.

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I learned a lot from you

I learned a lot from you

Ilmo Konstantin, my most wonderful son in the world, who was already a thinker at the age of 2, curious about everything, a researcher and often a bit funny. My dear first born. I miss you deeply. Thank you for all the moments I got to spend with you, Mom

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A curious mind and a kind soul

Ilmo was the best possible friend and co-worker one can have. He was empathetic, understanding, always a great listener and curious to learn more. I knew him and his crazy mad scientist side even before he joined our team. He is to this day the only other member in our Social Network Analysis group. I […]Read More

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I am shocked and devastated to hear of Ilmo’s passing. Ilmo and I were colleagues at Google, and we last spoke a few weeks ago, just as he was about to embark on a new role at the company. I was very excited that Ilmo was about to join a “super team” of quants. Every […]Read More

Bisnes in the spirit of Bill Gates

Bisnes in the spirit of Bill Gates

A major milestone in Ilmo’s career was founding a company with a few friends to create websites. In early 1996, a local newspaper, Turun Sanomat, published an article that sparked significant interest from local businesses. This momentum led the team to join the advertising agency Bates Saatchi & Saatchi. English translation of the article: Bisnes […]Read More

Tinkerer and Teacher

Tinkerer and Teacher

I’ll always remember Ilmo as a pillar of our team, setting the stage with humor and compassion, and freely sharing his wit and wisdom with others. Here’s a photo of him the first time we gathered in person, at a 2022 team summit in Seattle. For his introduction, he shared how science was always in […]Read More

Friends for nearly 30 years

Friends for nearly 30 years

I met with Ilmo first time in 1995 when he was introduced as a good addition to team who would found a company creating websites. Netscape Navigator 1.0 had been just released and we were exited to start a journey together which would take all of us into very interesting roles and places. Very soon […]Read More

One of a kind Ilmo

One of a kind Ilmo

Ilmo was really special. Ilmo was one of my best friends and the closest thing in the world I had to a brother. I can’t count even count on two hands the number of life milestones we’ve all shared together over all of these years. Ilmo and I first met and became friends while we […]Read More

The life of the party

The life of the party

I am honestly at a loss for words right now, but I just went down memory lane by looking at old photos from my time with Ilmo at Oxford. I strongly remember some amazing Halloween parties and Ilmo’s enthusiasm for costumes, which I’m glad to see continued well beyond those days. He was always the […]Read More

Unparalleled enthusiasm

Several weeks ago, Ilmo joined a new team that I started managing. As a first-time manager, I was anxious about the new role to say the least. But my anxiety quickly dissipated when I met Ilmo. He was clearly brilliant, but he also had an unparalleled enthusiasm that I’ve rarely (if ever) seen in the […]Read More

Ilmo, Remembered

First off, Ilmo would be upset. Not because of the obvious, but because his favorite way of communicating was with imagery, which a text box entry field does not allow. Every time he presented at work, it would be a visual fantasia, marrying a theme to a highly technical and esoteric idea that he would […]Read More

Random kindness

Not only was Ilmo always someone who made time for me and give me advice, he arranged a Waymo demo ride for my parents on Google Parents Day. He truly knew how to make us feel special, and he will be deeply missed.

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First encounters

Ilmo was one of the first “XFN” partners I encountered when I started in tech 10 years ago. I recall breakfasts together where we would try to understand what each others jobs were because they sounded so similar on the surface. What struck me was Ilmo’s curiosity to truly understand and his ability to translate […]Read More

The best, nerdiest lunch mate ever

Like many here, I’ll most remember Ilmo for being simultaneously brilliant and kind, in equally massive measures of both. Plus a lot of coffee, skateboards, beautiful presentations, and embeddings. I didn’t even know what embeddings were until Ilmo excitedly brought them up one day at lunch. I still don’t fully understand the math, but he […]Read More

A Sparkling Mind and a Heart of Gold

Ilmo was my onboarding buddy at Facebook. He made my early days in tech incredibly inspiring and fun-filled. He showed me around campus, taught me how to use the coffee machine, and even introduced me to R. He was incredibly generous with his expertise and time. I remember once I was designing a complicated study, […]Read More

A brilliant and caring friend

A brilliant and caring friend

I met Ilmo in 2017 where I was fortunate enough to work closely with him as a colleague. Ilmo was extremely brilliant, but what made ilmo truly special was that his kindness, compassion, and ability to have a good laugh were equal to his brilliance. During our time as colleagues, Ilmo taught me about quantitative […]Read More

Skateboards

I saw Ilmo on my interview visit to MPK many years ago, though we didn’t actually meet until later. I had never been on a tech company campus before and everything about it was weird. As I sat in the lobby mentally rehearsing, I watched Ilmo skateboard by on the other side of security. Something […]Read More

First Messenger Exchange

First Messenger Exchange

This was the first message Ilmo ever sent me on Messenger. He was always thinking about others and as quick witted as the best of them (the quickest?). The image fairly accurately captures years of Messenger exchanges — silly photos, memes, or gifs he’d seed, then we’d banter for a while never knowing where the […]Read More

The Kindest Barista

Ilmo was one of the first people I befriended when I joined tech. He (and Joe) took care of our team in every way imaginable. One very important way he cared for us was the care he put into our post-lunch caffeine intake. I can hear his laugh now as I remember our daily post […]Read More

Kindness & Brilliance

Kindness & Brilliance

Ilmo and I started on the same day in 2015 at Facebook. I immediately knew he was a very special human – full of brilliance, kindness, and an unparalleled sense of humor. Ilmo graciously and generously gave of his time and energy to educate everyone around him, teaching us new analytical methods as well as […]Read More

Kindness and curiosity

I remember Ilmo from my grad school days in the Keltner Lab. Ilmo was one of those rare undergraduate students who was always present in lab meetings. I mostly have feeling memories about Ilmo from this time, others worked more closely with him, but my feeling was of Ilmo always being kind and curious. It […]Read More

We were in a book together

We were in a book together

Some time after Ilmo and I stopped working directly together (thanks to reorgs / team changes), I was showing my son one of the books I had a chapter on, and while showing him my own name I noticed that years before our paths crossed at work, when both of us were in academia, Ilmo […]Read More

Elmo with an I

Ilmo, my first friend at Facebook. My onboarding buddy. You are the most real human I have come across. On my first day at the office you sat me down in the Cafe and talked about imposter syndrome. And I thought, how does he know what I’m thinking about. This was the beginning of a […]Read More

Rubber hand experiment

I was Ilmo’s first manager at Facebook. When Ilmo started working at Facebook, I was told by my boss at that time that I had to “talk to this brilliant guy” and see if I can hire him into my team. I immediately knew Ilmo would not only be good at this role, but would […]Read More

Coffee lover and trainer

Coffee lover and trainer

During my onboarding, Ilmo made it clear that learning to use the espresso machine was a crucial part of working in the tech company. Here’s a slide from one of his decks explaining how he made the impact that he did.

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A patient teacher and generous colleague

Ilmo was one of the first people I met when I began my career in tech (and Joe too! An incredible team!). At first I learned so much by just observation–Ilmo brought fun, creative thinking and such care to his work. As time went on, Ilmo also taught planted the seeds of teaching me R. […]Read More

Experimental make-over

When Ilmo and I were at Berkeley, he and Hayzell would try to shepherd my young, lost self on the ways of the world. One day over dinner, they pointed out that it was going to be challenging for me to meet a smart woman if I was dressed the way I like to dress–big, […]Read More

“I’m Ilmo-grating, too”

“I’m Ilmo-grating, too”

Ilmo helped me land my first tech job in the Bay Area while I was working on a post-doc. He had made a similar transition from academic into industry. His coaching was a combination of pointing me to specific jobs, coaching me on what the role involves and where to study, and also getting over […]Read More

Meme-orial

Meme-orial

Ilmo was hilarious. He was frequently sending a meme, joke, or video he found on Tiktok. We had the same sense of humor — dry, blunt, bleak, deadpan, gallows-style humor. For a few years, we shared a commute to work across the Dumbarton bridge, and that’s really when I got to know him better. We […]Read More